Understanding and managing oppositional defiant disorder

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Expressing opposition and assertiveness is a necessary part of a child’s development. However, when these behaviours are persistent and accompanied by irritability, anger, or hostility, they may be a sign of oppositional defiant disorder (ODD). Here are a few suggestions on how to deal with ODD without losing your cool.

Symptoms of ODD

Children with oppositional defiant disorder may exhibit the following symptoms:

  • Having a short temper
  • Being irritable
  • Always arguing
  • Refusing to follow rules
  • Throwing temper tantrums
  • Provoking others
  • Seeking revenge
  • Etc.

Causes of oppositional behaviour

It is important to note that oppositional behaviour can sometimes be explained by factors besides ODD. Therefore, it is recommended that you consult a health professional to get to the root of the issue. Possible causes of oppositional behaviour include the following:

Tips on how to respond

Interacting with a child who has ODD can be exhausting. Fortunately, there are things you can do as a parent to help break the cycle of oppositional behaviour:

  • Reinforce positive behaviour (e.g., praise your child for following directions or playing quietly)
  • Avoid arguing (e.g., take a step back and stop interacting with your child to keep the situation from escalating)
  • Do not compare your child to others
  • Set no more than three or four rules at once and give your child one instruction at a time
  • Do not give yes-or-no options (e.g., ask if your child would prefer to pack their school bag before or after breakfast)
  • Spend quality time together (e.g., play sports, read together, go for walks)

It can also help to work with your child’s teacher. As a team, you can do the following:

  • Warn your child about any changes in the classroom that could trigger their ODD symptoms
  • Share successful strategies with one another
  • Praise your child when they do something well at school
  • Etc.
Did you know

Oppositional defiant disorder is one of a number of behavioural disorders that persist into adulthood. To help your child cope with the challenges of ODD, it may be worthwhile to consult a specialist. You can also try our other strategies for improving your parent-child relationship.

Collaborators

Writing : Catherine Couturier      
Scientific review : Valérie Leclair, psychoeducator

Rewriting : The Alloprof Parents' team

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